You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do – C.G Jung
Since working as a PT and coach the above quote has become one of my favourite and most relevant quotes. My days are filled with “i’m gonna do this” or “i’ve decided my new goal is…” I love hearing these words when action to attain these goals follow. Unfortunately more often than not it doesn’t and these phrases are used for the purpose of instant gratification. These phrases instantly make the person saying them feel better about themselves but unfortunately that feeling is short lived and has no long term tangible benefits, physically or mentally. These phrases said over and over with no action following become very annoying if you are telling them to someone who actually gives a shit about you.
I realised i am definitely guilty of this in areas of my life. When i sat back and questioned why, it became very apparent. The things i am saying i’ll do don’t hold enough value to me. I’ll give you an example… I am a Yorkshireman through and through. It is sacrilege not to have a cup of tea and a few biscuits before i go to bed each night. I often find myself on a Sunday saying to Kate (My wife) “Thats it, no more biscuits for me, i want to drop some body fat” Monday night comes and i have my standard cup of Yorkshires finest tea and 5 or 6 Tim Tams (or Penguins if you live in the UK.) I’m sure this drives Kate mad. So why do i do it? In the grand scheme of things i value actual fitness over the appearance, so a six pack to me comes second to pulling sub 6:20.0 in a 2000m Ski Erg time trial. If i can pull sub 6:20.0 and enjoy a few biscuits who gives a shit if i’m carrying a little extra body fat. A six pack would look awesome at the beach and i’m sure Kate would appreciate it but a little extra body fat really doesn’t effect me mentally. Missing targets on Ski Erg workouts does. Obviously this example would be the total opposite for a Body Builder, they place a much higher value on aesthetics than cardio respiratory performance.
What i’m saying is don’t sit back and rely on instant gratification to get you through each day… It will eventually run out and i can tell you first hand people will get sick of hearing what your ‘going to do’. Decide what you actually want and value and why, then decide how you will get it. People, including me will be more than happy to help you down this path. Just don’t tell me you value it when your actions show otherwise. If you realise you don’t value it, its not really that important to you, let it go, its a waste of time thinking and talking about it.
“Intent reveals desire. Action reveals commitment.”
– Steve Maraboli